Saturday, April 9, 2011

evolving? one text at a time...

so, i am going slightly off topic in today's post.... it's not so much about interning but about boys... i know that i am 39 and the guys that i am dating shouldn't be considered boys really, but men.. however, i still consider myself a girl (i am a very young 39) so boys it is....

anyhow, the funny thing about dating these days and opening myself up to new experiences (i.e. interning, going back to school, going out with different sorts of guys including one former intern that happens to be almost a decade younger than me (yikes!!)) is wondering just how open to some of these new experiences i should be... ok ok, for those of you venturing into gutter mind territory, just pull yourselves right back out immediately! come on!?! my parents follow this blog... no gutter talk coming your way....

so, as i was just about to say, the funny thing about this is my learning how to grow and evolve and perhaps change some of the slightly more rigid parts of my personality (did someone say type A???) and expectations from those that i am seeing while wondering if my expectations are too high or if they need to be modified for 2011...

for instance, cell phone texting. should i now be more open to that being the sole form of communication between me and one of the boys i am seeing??? i tried to lead by example and call him only to have him reply via text message... i have chatted with my friends, fellow interns and young classmates about this and the opinions differ.... guy friends my age seem to think that it's just the way things are now and that i just need to go with it (this coming mostly from guy friends that have been dating girls in their 20's for years now and actually prefer texting to having to make the effort and possibly resort to an occasionally awkward phone call)... 20 something classmates and interns agree that it sucks but it is the way it is now but they feel a few calls should also be mixed in... girlfriends my own age find it just as annoying as i do and have been able to stop the insanity of it with guys our age that they date (as i have been able to in the past)...

my issue is that texting, like email, offers so many issues with trying to decipher tone, what the underlying message is (yep, i'm a girl and we read everything into everything, every possible way), and if i should be reading anything into those darn emoticons (you know... smiley face, wink, sad face... ugh!) or a quick versus slow reply...   this is the first time i have ever encountered this over-usage of text messaging and it has thrown me for a loop.  texting is great for certain things but when you are new to getting to know someone, i have to say that texting sucks. the old man i dated for quite a while didn't even know how to text so i never had to wonder...  now i just wonder if i should stick with old men?  

so, that's that.... i guess i just needed to vent a little... any and all opinions welcome.... please shed some light on this and let me know if i am crazier than i already knew i was... oh, and  by the way, don't even get me started on those rude folks typing on their iphone or blackberry while on a date...

my school spring break starts monday and i am trying to convince some friends to go wine tasting up the coast for a few days... definitely a few steps above daytona beach, florida in 1990!

until next time...

2 comments:

  1. It's a generation thing. Texts are good if you need a quick 'k' response, but dating and texting? bah! It takes me too long to figure out the acronyms that are tossed around work- I don't have time- or energy- to understand the texting lingo. But I am an ancient 35 year-old...

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  2. You're far from crazy! But, then again, I'm one of your "old" friends! ;).
    Xo

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