Thursday, September 13, 2012

please no ma'am!!

Recently I have made it my mission to train the men and boys in this world to call me (and frankly every other gal they come in contact with)  Miss and not Ma'am.  Honestly, ma'am??!!! Really? Is that necessary? I realize it is more polite than "lady" or "hey you" but I feel about 90 every time it happens.  And I truly can't remember when the switch from people calling me miss to ma'am actually happened in my case but all of a sudden it seemed like the world was aging me up with that one little salutation.  And frankly it bums me out.   Did it happen before I turned 40 or after?? Who knows!  Thankfully the very nice boys I buy fruit from every single Sunday at my local farmer's market have it down.  And for that, I will always be loyal and purchase my pluots and peaches from them.  And the guys working at my local Pep Boys autoparts store.  Yep, I have them trained too. Now I just need to get the other 98% of the planet on board...

And for any fab Miss, how lovely is the hot pink vintage dress at the top of this post?  Spotted it at the Rose Bowl flea market a couple of weeks ago.  Sadly at $285, I had to pass.  But I did take this pic for someday.  You know, when I have my life figured out and have the funds to have someone make me one just like it!
 
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until next time...

the formerly almost 40 year old intern


12 comments:

  1. We live in Texas and I've raised my kids to say ma'am to any woman older than them. The worst was when the wife of my oldest's football coach (they're from the NE) scolded and embarrassed him for calling her ma'am (she was PISSED). Please don't take it as a bad thing...it's just people using oft-forgotten good manners.

    LOVE that dress. I have several of my grandmother's patterns from the 50's for shirtwaist dresses. I wish I had the time to actually make one!

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    1. G- you are right in raising your kids to be polite. I am making it my mission to switch it to Miss.. Even more polite, don't you think? Love that you have vintage dress patterns like this! Definitely hang onto them for someday when you do have the time! So classic and lovely! Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment... Xo

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  2. 32. That is the age that I started getting the "ma'am" from the grocery baggers. I remember it well because I came home and complained.

    I do think it is sweet when the young kids use it- because they use it with any age. The teenagers? I think I just look old to them :)

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    1. I love that you remember it to the day! I have been living in a land called denial since it started and am now acknowledging the harsh daily reality...

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  3. It is so funny to read this post today because I was just talking to my husband about that! I hate being called maman. It makes me think I need to run out and buy a big bottle of oil of olay. Lately though at restaurants they've been saying 'Ladies' a lot, I like that much better. I would definitely take a Hey You over Amman any day!

    :)
    mikky
    www.todaloos.com

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    1. Ladies and gals are good ones for sure! And you are so right on with the oil of olay comment....

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  4. I'm hoping to gloss completely over "Ma'am" and go straight to Madam. I realize that probably sounds even older, but it's so... baroque and elegant.

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    1. I agree that Madame sounds a lot more sophisticated... Sadly, I don't think I am sophisticated enough to pull it off...

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  5. This is so funny. Now that my friends and I are in our 40's we always ask, "When did we go from "Miss" to "Ma'am"?

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  6. I just spent my whole lunch hour reading your old posts. I had never heard of your blog until I saw your rug on Tip Junkie today. You're a very funny writer and could probably write a book about your intern experience. I was drawn to your posts because I'm in my early forties and am trying to make my way into the interior design world (well, maybe more like interior decorating)while working a full-time boring job in another industry. I'm taking a certificate course right now and am working with clients for no cost. Do you have any tips for how to get started? I would love to take courses in photoshop and CAD since it sounds like those are necessary.

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  7. The dress reminds me of this (more affordable) one - http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/soda-fountain-dress-in-cherry

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